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children and divorce

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Peter Magee

In the situation of the breakdown of the relationship, the issue of children and divorce is one that can often play on your mind. Concern about what will happen to the children and the impact of the separation on them, are big issues to consider.

Research shows quite clearly that in a situation of breakdown of a relationship, it is not the separation which causes most damage to children. That statement might seem surprising, but the clear evidence is it is the ongoing conflict between parents which causes the most psychological and emotional damage.

In most instances, children have strong bonds with both of their parents. Seeing their parents in conflict places them in an emotional and psychological turmoil because of the allegiances they hold to both parents. In most situations children (and adults) are able to protect themselves psychologically and emotionally when they see conflict by being able to define the conflict as a battle between good and bad. By choosing to align themselves on the same side as those they value they are able to maintain value and worth in their own identity as being a good and valuable person. The problem with conflict between parents is that children are usually not able to clearly identify good and bad because of their mixed allegiances. This leads to an irreconcilable conflict within them that no amount of reasoning can resolve. It leads to children fearing what the consequences may mean for them and if they align with both sides to the conflict, part of them must be associated with the bad side of the conflict, leading to issues associated with low self worth and potentially lower self esteem.

Research has also shown that children in separated families are able to have full loving relationships with both parents and are able to flourish in circumstances where both parents have a positive outlook and do not involve the children in the dispute.

If you are in a situation involving children and divorce and would like to speak to one of our solicitors, please do not hesitate to call us or, send us an email by clicking on the appropriate button on the right hand side at the top or bottom of this page.

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